Here goes nothing...

[Can't Get Enough]

Well, I've been wadering around this forum since before this new upgraded version (quite awhilw), figured better now then never, so on with the jokes, bashing, hopefully advice.
My longtime boyfriend is surfing, it's his meditation, his salvation, and I totally admire it. I honestly was at the most a beach goer for the sun, some playing a little, but never had an interest in surfing until I saw how much it does for those who truly appreciate it, and learn and do what they can to surf any chance they get (Southern FL seems kinda sparse on occasion, but doesn't stop him :)
Here's my question, I would love to learn, to be a part of something so diverse and simple at the same time. He hasn't ever said anything negative about my hints, even plying around saying it "could" be fun to help me learn, but I also don't want to intrude on such a major part of his escape from the daily rat race either.
I would love to take lessons and maybe share some of that time in the water with him, I've heard good and bad points to this.... any experiences?
Thanks for at least reading this :)

[Madame of Fact]

From one woman to another:

Like anything in life and love,

do surfing because YOU love it. Love it and appreciate it for what it does for YOU. Your man may love it and may always love it at a deeper level than you ever will, but know what it does for you spiritually, emotionally, physically... When you do that, you will find its true value.

Good luck. I hope you have quick wits... otherwise, you won't survive here ;)

[Soul Surf]

Well put MOF

[Soul Surf]

Not trying to sound sexiest but just sit on the beach and look pretty for him. lol. Actually I think it would be cool to have a girl that surfs on one hand but I also don't think I'd like messing with my surf time.

[Madame of Fact]

I think it's more detrimental to a relationship if a girl doesn't surf. Here are some examples...

#1. A good and rare set comes in and he wants to surf. She doesn't understand his need and desire and thus a huge fight occurs.

#2. They're at the beach. She wants to walk along the beach during a good session, he wants to stay in the water... a huge fight occurs.

I think the only good thing a non-surfer babe can do is take photos of him while he surfs... and still, she's got to understand what's worth takin and what's not....

I say, to date an athelete or surfer a woman has got to understand that he's going to run off with the boys to surf or whatever... but if a chick surfs, she can say one thing to her man when a good swell comes in: strap a board for me.

[Can't Get Enough]

Thanks for the input.. got some more insight & I'm heading into lessons a.s.a.p. Thinking about keeping it to myself until I am a step or few above nuisance in the water ;)
We've got some spurts of a long-ish distance relationship going on, so I know it'll be a surprise showing up at the beach with more than just a new bikini.
Madame... need a protege by chance? :D
Got the wits, working on the knowledge, heading to the water!

[Can't Get Enough]

Not trying to sound sexiest but just sit on the beach and look pretty for him. lol. Actually I think it would be cool to have a girl that surfs on one hand but I also don't think I'd like messing with my surf time.
I've got the sitting pretty down to a science... extremely boring after a bit :cool:
Just going forward, if it isn't something he wants to share (sometimes none of us play well with others:rolleyes: ), I know I'll still experience it for myself.
But gotta start first so what the hell, eh?

[Madame of Fact]

Protege? Never. Often imitated, but never replicated.

Do your own thing girly, this ain't no Devil Wears Prada BS.

[Can't Get Enough]

Damn, was just trying to be less obvious then the guys ;)

[Madame of Fact]

I have 5 brothers. Men are easy to read. Unless they're French. ha.

[Sippi]

Fed him enough whiskey and im sure you had all the answers you needed the other night.

[wave-beetle]

that's a good vibe coming from a girlfriend. hey even if you don't wanna surf, just have your man buy a video camera, its another way to get into the sport and support your man.

[Madame of Fact]

Nothing wrong with supporting, just don't forget that the street goes both ways. I'm a womanist, what can I say?

[Soul Surf]

Don't get me wrong if it's sommething you want to do then go for it. Make sure it's for you though.

[quest]

I know I'm getting in this a little late but I dont think having a girlfriend, wife, significant other, whatever, that doesn't like to surf causes any issues. I have gone on trips out of the country without taking my girlfriends and they are happy to have me go. If its something they aren't into but allow me to do without having a problem with it then we are good. I let people know when I start getting into a relationship exactly where I stand. If they have a problem then the relationship isn't worth staying in because it will be a constant problem.

[Can't Get Enough]

Hey... thanks again for the input. As a footnote, my interest started with wanting to truly understand the drive behind doing anything to surf, and branched into wanting to learn more for me. If we end up in the water together, even better.

[Madame of Fact]

I know I'm getting in this a little late but I dont think having a girlfriend, wife, significant other, whatever, that doesn't like to surf causes any issues. I have gone on trips out of the country without taking my girlfriends and they are happy to have me go. If its something they aren't into but allow me to do without having a problem with it then we are good. I let people know when I start getting into a relationship exactly where I stand. If they have a problem then the relationship isn't worth staying in because it will be a constant problem.


Of course, that's love. Most people don't understand what love is.

[Sprocket]

I have gone on trips out of the country without taking my girlfriends and they are happy to have me go.


Ba haw haw haw!!!! :D


Yep upfront communication IS KEY. Without you don't have any decent relationship anyway.

[14thStSurf]

Of course, that's love. Most people don't understand what love is.
Oh no MoF, not the L word! :D

[Madame of Fact]

Hah, men. That's the only four letter word men are afraid of... ;)

[surfer311]

I love you for 1 long hour! then, well, don't feel like love anymore. but in 20 minutes love for 1 hour again, or maybe only 30 minutes! :D

[Madame of Fact]

Sounds good. How much?